Finding your tribe
When I look back on my life, I see how I’ve been a part of many different tribes. Your tribe may change over time, as people come and go from your life, and that’s ok. I think about the different jobs and relationships I’ve had. Most important, though, is how I’ve changed and grown in my own evolution. And my tribes have changed with me over time.
It’s human nature to search for belonging, so when we are looking for “our tribe,” that means we are looking for people who share commonalities and posses similar traits as us. Whether it’s family, community, or a group, our tribe is important because it reflects our values while simultaneously satisfying our need for companionship.
When I think of a tribe, I imagine people attracting like-minded souls. A tribe makes you feel good, and that is in part because you share the same things in common. Like when I sign up for a 5K, I run with tons of people that all share the same goal I have—To move my body and support my healthy lifestyle. The energy in the crowd is upbeat and we are able to bond over this like we share.
But what if you don’t know how to find your tribe? The good news is, it’s actually quite easy. Simply start by doing the things you enjoy; you might find yourself attracting a new tribe. A year ago, a wellness studio moved in down the street from me. It offered classes like yoga, meditation, qigong, and sound baths. I signed up and started attending classes. A year later, I found myself with a new tribe, full of wonderful, like-minded people. Plus, I found a new love for qigong that I never experienced before and my spiritual practice blossomed in ways I hadn’t imagined. If you are looking for a tribe to join in your life, I suggest trying new things to help you get started. Check in with your heart and focus on the things that bring you joy.
Here’s a few little nuggets to help you get started looking for your tribe.
Find yourself to find your tribe.
The first step to finding your tribe involves having a clear idea of the things you deeply cherish. In other words, we need to know ourselves before we can find our tribe. What are you looking for in your tribe? We often take for granted that being part of a tribe is all about support and companionship, but these concepts don’t mean the same to everyone. Perhaps you’re looking for a tribe that can support you through a challenging time. Or maybe you want to find a group that helps you reach your fitness goals. Getting clear on your desires will help you take the first steps forward.
Be unapologetically yourself.
When you’re completely, unapologetically yourself, you naturally attract individuals who resonate with your personality and values. Don’t try to be someone you’re not; embrace your unique qualities and quirks. When you are open and honest about who you are, you foster deeper relationships with others in your tribe. This quote says it all: “Don’t change so people will like you; be yourself and the right people will love you.”
Ditch judgment.
If we’re being honest with ourselves, sometimes we are unable to connect with others because we’re too busy judging them. One of the keys to finding your tribe is trying to stay open-minded and not jumping to conclusions about the people you meet. Ditch the judgment and open yourself up for something new to come into your life.
Call out to your tribe.
If you know the type of people you would like to bring into your life, make it known. Use social media to advertise what you’re looking for. Whether it’s a meditation class, local crafters, or a running group in your town— reach out to them! Or start your own meetup group online. You might be surprised to find many others who are longing for a similar group of friends. You never know unless you try.
As I continue to build my own tribe, I’ve realized that it is a process. As your life continues to grow, you’ll learn more about yourself and bring more beautiful souls into your circle. As you begin your search for your tribe, stay open and enjoy the connections and new relationships you are creating.